Today's economic restrictions is seeing dudes scaling down on the big nights out, halving bar tabs, partying at home town venues, and asking girls out on "picnic by the lake" dates. Don't worry, you need not look like a mug.
Leading New York style master, DJ Reggie Martin, spins his tunes at some of the most glamorous after dark venues in New York. Reggie breaks it down for us nice and simple, take note of his inside tips and save yourself from looking like a chump.
Keep your mouth closed! Too much is too much. Lining up for an hour is bad enough, but when you finally get to the front of the cue, don't blow it by asking the doorman dumb questions. Trying to over impress decreases your worth second by second. Ever heard that a girl will decide in 30 seconds whether she will sleep with you or not?, a doorman will flick you in less than 5 - shut your mouth!
By the way, turning up with a babe on your arm virtually gives you right of way so you really have to stuff things up in a big way for the gorilla at the door to deny you entry. Back to reality. When you get to the front of the cue, be precise and brief with your words - but arrogance is a no no. And if you are out partying with 6 of your mates, don't approach the door in a big group. Approach in pairs or by yourself.
Use the terrible economy to your advantage while you can. Clubs and bars are doing it pretty bad right now. Some of the traditionally staunch door monkeys are over looking entry politics and the shady characters that once would not have stood a chance of tarnishing the reputation of the glamour night clubs are being let in.
Divide and conquer. Turning up with your wing man is a terrible approach. When we hunt alone, there is no pressure to out shine your mate. Go your own way and catch a woman by yourself. Catch the girl who is ordering her own drinks. Dig into your deep pockets and grab the next round. She will be anticipating a slick overly confident douche bag to take her hand while on her way to the ladies room - really, try not to be that guy.
Less CAN be more. A sexy and stylish wine bar is the best place to shine. You don't need to come up with annoying one liners and trying to be overly funny. In fact, don't talk - too much. The more SHE talks the MORE she likes you. A guy who is funny and satisfied with his life is much more attractive than a dude that blatantly tries too hard and looks desperate - just ask any woman! One of the fundamentals that Reggie reckons men slip up on is failing to listen to her.
Since models are often night club warhorses, get moving, you MUST check out the pro dance videos featured on You Tube and dance in front of the biggest mirror you can find. What's this all about? well, people are having sex in the clubs and dance floors without uttering a word - there is an exchange going on but not of the vocabulary type!
Send a text accidently on purpose. Is she keen or NOT? Compose an informative and intriguing text message about making money, an elaborate travel itinerary, arranging an important business meeting - get the idea? Then send it to her. Wait for the "huh"? then your opportunity presents itself to reply "oops, my bad texting skills, long time no speak!" then see what happens. If nothing happens and there's no reply, delete her from your contact list. With people turning to online dating over clubbing for economic reasons, technology and singles dating websites are being used in massive proportions to flirt, hook up or to dump someone.
Regardless of how good YOU think your game is, unless she reciprocates don't keep wasting your time. Dating a girl in the beginning is tricky terrain. She will be excited, as you are in the beginning, although when the time comes and she isn't "feeling too well" It's often a safe bet to cut and run.